BLOG: Living with loss – thoughts from our counsellor

Grief isn’t something you “get over”. As Simon Brotherton, Counsellor at St Catherine’s explains: “It’s about learning to live with it. Life changes forever, but you can still have a life.” 

Simon knows this personally as his own dad received Hospice at Home care before he died in 2017. Now, after years of training and volunteering at St. Catherine’s, Simon is a fully qualified counsellor who supports others facing loss. Christmas, he says, can be especially hard, but there are ways to cope. 

Let yourself feel

Whether you want to curl up in a duvet or surround yourself with family, both are valid. Don’t judge your emotions. 

Keep talking

“People avoid mentioning loved ones for fear of upsetting you,” Simon says. “But using their name and sharing stories keeps their memory alive.” 

Actively remember

You might visit a grave, pray, share photos, and remind yourself that those memories are always yours.  

Reclaim Christmas your way

It may not be the same, but you can still have a Christmas. Change traditions if you need to and be open about what feels right for you. 

Stay connected

Loss can feel lonely. Keep people close – friends, family, support groups – so you don’t carry this alone. 

How we can support you

We run regular groups and remembrance events throughout the year, find out more below: 

• Come to one of our Bereavement Groups and Cafés – open to anyone in the community who has lost someone.

• Make a dedication at our Light Up A Life event to remember your loved one. 

• Volunteer in their memory – helping others can bring comfort and connection. Find out more about our volunteering opportunities.

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